I read a post on Facebook the other day that shifted something in me. I don’t remember the exact words, and to be honest I have probably heard them a million different ways, but something about how it was phrased made me think.
What if I was just nice to myself regardless of what I was doing? What if I was nice to myself when I messed something up? When I was lazy or unmotivated or especially when I slipped back into an old pattern, something I tend to beat myself up for.
What if regardless of what I was doing, done, or going to do, I told myself ” I will be still love, care and honor myself regardless of the outcome”.
We as humans are so mean to ourselves. NO one, and I mean no one is as mean to us as we are to ourselves. Even if we have had people in our worlds that have treated us badly, we tend continue the behavior. Shaming or blaming ourselves for not stopping the abuse sooner, internalizing the bad behavior as we must be “bad” or deserving or it somehow. Or even internalizing their voices as ours, replaying it over and over again in our heads, becoming our own inner voice.
No one is as mean to us as we are, because no one is around us as much as we are around us. We are with ourselves every moment or every day. There is actually no escape from ourselves. So why don’t we make it a little easier to be with us. A little less negative self talk, less judging of ourselves and a bit more forgiveness. AND *gassp* some love, some nurturing or nice words of encouragement.
“Hey good job Anna! I see you out there trying new stuff every day, willing to look dumb and willing to say the wrong thing despite being nervous about it, you are doing a good job”.
What if we spoke to ourselves like that?
What would change?
Would it be an easier existence?
I think yes.